2020 has been one of my best years. I know you’re reading this and thinking, ’she can’t be serious.’ I am serious — very serious. I was planning my wedding when the pandemic hit. My then fiancé Neil and I were looking forward to a beautiful wedding in the English countryside in May 2020.
My passion for reading was nurtured early in life by my parents, who had a gift for storytelling. This love of learning that I grew up with drives me to provide the same for my patients at Milestone Pediatrics in Atlanta, GA through the Reach out and Read Program.
Now, I was 39 years old, almost 40) and single again. Where do I meet people? How do I navigate dating at 40? Who do I date? One thing I knew for sure was, I was ready to date non-Nigerian men. I have never been a very social person. After some research, I decided online dating was the place for a mostly introverted homebody like me.
Women Without Guilt Conference 2020:
I would like to attend the conference because it is a conference of women for women. A great opportunity to rub minds with intellectual ladies. It is a chance to learn from other women who are doing amazing things in making our world a better place. Personally, I like the topic because it stimulated some curiosity in me.
About a year ago, I decided to break out of my comfort zone right after my birthday. The way I lived my life up until that moment was different from what I expected. I realized I was not making the kind of impact I wanted; instead, I was locked up in a shell, embracing whatever life brought my way. I became so comfortable where I was that the thought of making changes brought on anxiety, fear, and doubt. It almost felt impossible to crack the shell without guilt, anger, and frustration.
Women Without Guilt Conference 2020:
‘In Adversity, we often find our Voice and Inner Strength if we do not cower’. This statement defines my attitude to obstacles.
At 22, I got married with zero knowledge of self nor an understanding of what marriage entails, to a person that I considered extremely smart and stern enough to fix me. You see, to me, marriage was about getting fixed. Love to me meant meanness and toughness.
1. A great time to read more books. Readers become writers. Readers become Leaders. 2. Improve your cooking skills. Make cooking time in the kitchen valuable family time. Finally learn how to bake.
3. Teach your kids about boundaries and the importance of mommy time every day. Carve out a time just for you and let your kids know; during that time they have to keep busy with activities you’ve laid down for them.
I’ve had 2 single phases in my life. The first was technically not a single phase. I met my ex-husband in medical school when I was seventeen and he was twenty one. We dated for eight years before we got married. That was an exclusive relationship on my part. So, was I single? I guess, by definition, if you’re not married, you’re single. Unfortunately, our marriage ended in divorce fifteen years after. I was just about to turn forty years old when it ended.
2020 started with a bang. There was an excitement in the air for all of us. The beginning of a new decade; or the end of one, depending on your personal perception. Predictions were that it was going to be a great year for all. Then, out of nowhere, the coronavirus invaded our universe, and our lives were transformed and turned upside down.
Are you still trying to search for happiness? Wondering why so many people seem happy and you are not? Are you still scrolling through social media and asking yourself when you’ll be as radiant, as accomplished, and as fulfilled as everyone else you see on there?